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3 Steps to avoiding costly mistakes

I recently made a decision that cost me dearly.  I had a distinct ‘feeling’ that I should not make the choice I did but I allowed circumstances, people and need to override my instinct.  And it cost me dearly … relationally, emotionally, financially, time wise.  After kicking myself in the butt for a few days and subjecting myself to the “if onlys”, I blocked out some time and took the situation to God in prayer.  Here are three thoughts I emerged with.  Maybe they will help you avoid the trap from which I had to extract myself.

  • Choose to trust the still, small Voice.  God leads us supernaturally but the supernatural is not necessarily the spectacular.  We don’t need lightening bolts and fingers writing in the sky.  We just need to recognize and trust His voice which, most of the time, comes gently and softly.
  • Choose to trust yourself.  Our life experiences help us in the decision making process.  In particular, we gain knowledge in our field of expertise that becomes instinctive and intuitive.  We don’t always know why we know something, we just know that we know.  We need to trust this ‘knowing’.
  • Choose to trust the process. Stressful circumstances or pressing need makes us want to solve the problem quickly to relieve the pressure we feel.  Hasty solutions are not necessarily the answer.  We need to learn to trust the process.  Often times the right solution unfolds over time and becomes clear and evident.

After my time of prayer over the situation I had inadvertently created, I committed to:

  • Forgive myself for making a poor choice.
  • Forgive the person who let me down.
  • Learn from my mistake.
  • Let go and move on.

“When wisdom enters your heart, and knowledge is pleasant to your soul, discretion will preserve you; understanding will keep you…” – Proverbs 2:10-11

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    Mike
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    These are wise words and a valuable lesson from which we can all learn. People, need and circumstance so often shout so loudly that we forget about the three areas of trust you mention. Thank you!!!

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    Stacycallaway
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    I feel your pain Michelle! I wonder at times if I will ever become proficient at hearing and responding correctly to the voice of God. I have had decades of practice but still fall short. Thank you for these words of caution and a reminder to stop and listen and follow the path of peace as we press on toward the mark of the higher calling in Christ Jesus.

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      Michelle Tessendorf
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      You’re so right Stacy. We need to hear AND respond correctly. Both are important lessons to learn. I am so thankful that God is always there, helping us learn both.

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    Shannon
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    Great reminder, Michelle, that we need to Be Still and listen  when we make choices. This is a noisy world, and the pace is very fast. Sometimes we need to just slow down, chill out and like you said, trust ourselves, our instincts and relearn how to hear God in this crazy world.

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      Michelle Tessendorf
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      So right Shannon. The voices are loud, the pace is fast. The ability to be still is a discipline we need to learn.

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    Suzie
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    I think we all have made “dumb” mistakes even tho’ we had heard that still small voice but let outside circumstances rule the day and our head.  Forgiving myself and letting go are sometimes the hardest of all to accomplish.  Taking it to God is the only solution for me!

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      Michelle Tessendorf
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      Yup! We’ve all done this at some point or another. But, God is faithful to forgive and so should we – including forgiving ourselves. Thanks Suzie.

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