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My comfort zone is being threatened

I was thoroughly enjoying a lazy Sunday morning in bed.  My husband was reading the paper and laughing out loud at an editorial comment.  I sat in bed sipping my coffee and doing what I enjoy most – being contemplative and allowing my mind to wonder here, there and everywhere.  That’s when it hit me.

I am going through some pretty big transitions in my life.

We’ve all heard the cliché, “The only thing that is constant is change”.  This is true but, actually, there have been times in my life when not too much has changed for long periods.  I have mostly enjoyed those times, finding comfort in the predictable.  But, as the saying goes, change always comes.

I have learnt that:

  • change can be unsettling but
  • it can also be energizing

When God prods us out of our comfort zone, it is always to help us grow.  In the change there always seems to be an element of faith and trust  – a feeling of “well … here goes!” as we jump.  It can be an electrifying and energizing sensation.

But change can also be really scary and deplete our energy:

  • Sometimes we feel so tired or
  • We feel ready to just give up and go back to that place of predictability that did not stretch us so much.

In our Christian growth process going backward is not really an option.  In moving forward we find our new normal, our new place of comfort and safety.  And in finding the new normal, we realize that we are so much stronger, so much more capable, so much more …. everything.  God has grown us.

Here are some ideas on how to manage change:

  • Whether you’ve chosen the change or not, it will have an impact on you.  Acknowledge that it is a scary/exciting/hurtful/other-type-of-emotion/ time in your life.
  • Take that emotion to the Lord in prayer.
  • Talk to a trusted friend or mentor if the emotion is overwhelming you.
  • If you are overburdened with the workload that comes along with the change,  ask for help.  As soon as possible.
  • Take care of yourself.  Do something just for you.
  • Remember that you are not alone in this.  God is with you every step of the way, all the time, with every beat of your heart.

In my reflections on that Sunday morning, I stopped and said a prayer.  I asked for wisdom and stamina and joy in the process .   I look forward to realizing the growth that God will bring to my life.  My unique abilities are being honed, sharpened, and directed for His purpose.  How very exciting!

I pray that as I come out of this time of transition, I will have more energy, more God ideas and be a more creative and capable leader.

Question: What are things that help you cope with change? Enter into the conversation by leaving a comment.

 

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    Deborah Johnson
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    After the deaths of both parents and an aunt within a year and a half of each other. Then it is also that time that both sons are moving out to start life independent of their mom and with that I have to find a one bedroom home and let go of the three bedroom I have been in for the last ten years. I am feeling so lost, scared and confused. The only thing I have to cling to is the Lord who never changes while everything around us does.

    At one time I would have welcomed the change but as I get older it seems to be harder especially not having the full use of my legs to do all the work these changes require. I have to take one hour at a time sometimes before I can take one day at a time because the path before me seems so big but in segments it is doable. Those segments sometimes would seem very small to someone else but they seem big to me so I cling to my morning bible reading and prayer for the Lord’s help to just get through each day.

    That is how I cope. Just one little foot step at a time not biting off to much to feel overwhelmed and realizing that Rome was not built in a day. That the Lord will be with me wherever this path is going to lead. I also cry a lot, LOL.

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      Michelle Tessendorf
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      Deborah, the changes you are facing are hugely life altering. Thank you for sharing. I have lifted you up to our Lord in prayer. As you know, He is beside you with every beat of your heart!

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        Deborah Johnson
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        Thank you very much, Michelle!!

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    Masego Kracke
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    The passt couple of months have been nothing but CHANGE and Transition for me and my family. I had to learn a new culture, a new job, find new friends, learn new social skills, grasp the new currency, time zones, even getting my way around the town we live in. The list goes on.

    After living in Mafikeng – South Africa, for 27 years of my life (which is ALL my life,LOL), a time of change was inevitable. 🙂 The change was overwhelming and scary at first and yet adventurous at the same time. But through that time, I have grown closer to God, to my husband and I have even come to know things about myself that I have not known. My fears aren’t as BIG as they were, like driving. I think because when you have lived in a place for so long, everything that has happened to you, like an accident I was in when I was little, becomes your “blueprint” in your life. Now that I am in a totaly different environment, I can actually face my fears and overcome them. I am able to do things I never thought I would do because I have changed environments.

    I have also learned that when God wants to grow us, there comes a time of uncomfortableness, unrest, uneasiness. It’s like that pair of shoes that no longer fits. You know that your feet have grown because it’s painful to walk in those shoes. God does that with us as well. When we have reached a place in our walk with Christ where we think we know it all, or we think we know His ways, He then removes us from that familiarity zone. Our faith in God is always tested and with that process, comes an opportunity for growth, maturity and reaching new heights just so that we can be closer to God. We must just embrace that time, accept it and take it one step at a time, as Debra Johnson said.

    Thank you Michelle and Deborah for reminding me that what I am currently going through is a chance for me to grow, mature and become a better me. 🙂

    Much love in Christ,
    M.

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      Michelle Tessendorf
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      Even though you are separated from your culture and home country, you clearly know that nothing can separate you from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus. We are always ‘home’ with Him. Masego, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us.

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      Deborah Johnson
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      I admire you so much Masego. I pray the Lord will keep you from the materialism of the US and to never forget your roots. Our real home will always be with the Lord secured in His presence while we journey on this earth to our final destination.

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    Masego Kracke
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    The past couple of months have been nothing but CHANGE and Transition for me and my family. I had to learn a new culture, a new job, find new friends, learn new social skills, grasp the new currency, time zones, even getting my way around the town we live in. The list goes on.

    After living in Mafikeng – South Africa, for 27 years of my life (which is ALL my life,LOL), a time of change was inevitable. 🙂 The change was overwhelming and scary at first and yet adventurous at the same time. But through that time, I have grown closer to God, to my husband and I have even come to know things about myself that I have not known. My fears aren’t as BIG as they were, like driving. I think because when you have lived in a place for so long, everything that has happened to you, like an accident I was in when I was little, becomes your “blueprint” in your life. Now that I am in a totaly different environment, I can actually face my fears and overcome them. I am able to do things I never thought I would do because I have changed environments.

    I have also learned that when God wants to grow us, there comes a time of uncomfortableness, unrest, uneasiness. It’s like that pair of shoes that no longer fits. You know that your feet have grown because it’s painful to walk in those shoes. God does that with us as well. When we have reached a place in our walk with Christ where we think we know it all, or we think we know His ways, He then removes us from that familiarity zone. Our faith in God is always tested and with that process, comes an opportunity for growth, maturity and reaching new heights just so that we can be closer to God. We must just embrace that time, accept it and take it one step at a time, as Debra Johnson said.

    Thank you Michelle and Deborah for reminding me that what I am currently going through is a chance for me to grow, mature and become a better me. 🙂

    Much love in Christ,
    M.

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